The other day hun and I got into an interesting
conversation. In many ways, we are very much alike, but in many more ways we
are very, very different…polar opposites even. And where we differ the most is
how we use our time. I am all about the planning. That’s a part of me that is a
bit of a control freak. If something falls out of the realm of my control
(which is most things in this world) I get very uncomfortable, flustered and
panicky. I’m usually always the one that spends countless hours researching,
planning, mapping and booking our plans and itineraries for our trips. I make
most of the reservations and manage most of the logistics for our get-togethers
with friends or family.
Hun is almost the exact opposite and it drives me nuts. He’s
the type of person you can hardly get to commit to any real plans. But the
kicker is, when you actually do get him to commit to anything, chances are come
the time, he will most likely cancel on you. He knows how much that upsets me
because it’s already very hard for me to relinquish control of something to another
person when I am involved. But then if he manages to convince me to let him
take care of something, I’m a worrywart that he won’t get it done, or done on
time.
He’s got that really laid back Venice Beach attitude. I’m
real New Yorker. But the best part of our relationships is that where we
differ, we actually complement. He mellows me out and gives me my chill pills
and I give him a swift kick in the butt to get things done and stay on track.
We could not both be Type A personalities or else one of us will bury the
other.
I was upset with him about some plans over the weekend and
we were having a mature, adult conversation (albeit at a slighter higher
decibel than the usual) during our car ride back into the city.
"Geez, When’s the last time you lived in the moment?!” he asked.
The whole question caught me by surprise. I don’t know if
he was really asking me seriously or if it was one of those redundant questions
that nobody is expected to answer. I don’t know, but perhaps that’s the secret to his
happiness. I used to think that he is so immature compared with me. But today, that
immaturity I see as youthful happiness and outlook.
I do all this planning and envisioning, but am I really any better off? Not so, according to him, I just stress myself out, especially when things don't unravel the way I expect.
Our life is going through so many exciting twists and turns at this very moment and sometimes I think I'm missing it because I'm soo concerned with the end result Husband is right. There is no perfect time and no perfect ending. But there is a perfect moment and when it's here, you have to recognize it and soak it all in. We are having our perfect moment right now. The next moment might not be so and I would've completely missed reveling in the moment that was. Hun's theory is, not everything has to be about the future and even if it is, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy the now before you get there.
I hate making new years resolutions because I almost always break them in the next 3 days. But I'm vowing to try hard to change my outlook on life and to worry less and focus more on "living in the moment" because if you don't live in the moment, are you really living at all?